What's the Plan Here??

Okay so I am FRUSTRATED! Now to start things off, everything that I have to say has been exacerbated by the fact that my daughter has completely digressed in her sleeping patterns. I am back to being up with her every 2-3 hours and between 2 AM and 4AM I am up every hour. What gives? I totally expected to have nights when she didn't sleep as well, but 4 nights in a row? And we are getting worse, not better. Yesterday I did my best to not let her sleep for more than a couple of hours at a time and still was up every hour from 2-4. The really hard part is that she is so darn cute and smiles at me every time I get in her room that it is difficult to be mad at her! Many mommies have told me how just when their little one figures something out ie. potty training, sleeping through the night, eating broccoli, there comes a point when magically they decide to digress. I remember thinking the first time Lily slept through the night "Ah, we are headed in the right direction, we may have a few bumps, but we are trending right. Lily isn't going to be one of those digressing babies".....LESSON LEARNED.....pride does go before a fall! Much to Bob's chagrin, our baby is NOT perfect.

Now to the real issue. Today at noon our beautiful home in Arizona is going to be auctioned off to the highest bidder. The worst part about it is that it didn't have to happen. Someone with the third party negotiation company dropped the ball and didn't get something done. After 4 months on the market with no activity, we finally got an offer for the short sale. Unfortunately the offer was super low. After discussing with the negotiator we discovered a month ago that the bank needed to net a certain amount in order to proceed with the short sale. So three weeks ago we were able to get the Buyer to come up the necessary amount to net the bank their requirement. We were told that a postponement of foreclosure had been requested and were anxiously waiting on the offer approval. Because we had an offer (actually we ended up with 3 offers- two were cash buyers! ARGH) that met the banks requirement, we were told that it should be a cut and dry deal. No foreclosure, Yeah! Then came the news that the negotiator submitted the original low ball offer instead of the increased price offer and of course, it was rejected. My awesome agent and I spent yesterday afternoon on the phone with them desperately trying to get someones help and were basically told "I'm sorry Mrs. Longmire, we understand that we made the mistake, but we cannot postpone the foreclosure without an approval letter and it is to late to get that." So we are just another victim of the housing crisis and the banks lack of communication.

It is so sad because we loved our home and would have stayed there for the next 10 years. We put so much effort into making it our home. I can remember painting every room (some of them twice) and planning how I was going to decorate. We bought our beautiful refrigerator, ceiling fans and custom bathroom mirrors. Our backyard was a true labor of love. We took it from dirt to a landscaped extended patio with a lovely built in fireplace. We dreamed of watching our citrus trees grow and adding a firepit one day. We found out we were pregnant in that house and I planned the beautiful baby room. Now it is going to be auctioned off.

We had great jobs, a beautiful home, close friends, wonderful family nearby and a baby on the way. Then everything changed and we had to move 2000 miles away, loose our house, leave our friends, have a major budget change and have a baby without family near. Yes, the move was good for Bob's career, but after NC taxes, and family healthcare, income has taken a dramatic nosedive. What did we come out here for? What's the plan?? My heart breaks every time that I think about Lily and that she is going to grow up far away from my parents and Bob's parents. This is just not what I wanted for my daughter. I know, I know, we are young and will have the ability to move back that direction sometime, but what if we don't? What if the plan is to move farther away? or to a bigger city?

Trusting God is so hard especially when you feel like every step is an unknown. I don't consider myself a control freak, but not knowing the plan is sometimes so frustrating!

Weatherly Weekend!

The past couple of months have been a whirlwind of visitors and new baby adventures. I was a bit bummed that we couldn't go anywhere over the holidays, but the family that came to visit really made the times special. This past weekend we had our dear Arizona friends Matt and Tara come for a visit. Actually it was more about meeting Lily, but we had a really great time. Since they were using the weekend as a a much needed getaway the entire time was laid back and chill. They got in last Thursday evening and spent the night playing with the baby.

On Friday Bob had to go to work for a few hours and then he and Matt headed off to do their favorite thing....GOLF! Both of the guys got to know each other on the golf course so it was fitting for them to have a day of golf.


While they played Tara and I stayed home, but Bob wanted me to be sure that I told some stories about the golf course. First off, both of the guys said that it was one of the most enjoyable courses that they have ever played and they got the whole course to themselves.



On hole number one Bob had a long putt to the hole. Matt, being a smart aleck, dropped a ball in the same spot to show Bob "how it's done." He hit the ball as more of a joke than anything and managed to sink the 50 foot putt. That started a great day of golf. There were enormous sand traps and some of them had major walls that require some talented shots to get out of.




There were also several dunes that blocked the green and it took a 14 foot pole to get an idea where the green was.



Just from the pictures it looked like a really fun and challenging course, very unique. Matt commented that it would have been beautiful with all of the trees but then pointed out that the ball wouldnn't go through them as well.

Saturday morning was Bob and my long run morning so we tucked Lily in and headed to the Tabacco Trail. Bob successfully pushed Lily for 14 long miles while Rocky and I did a respectable 6. Bob was exhausted after the miles and pushing the baby. I keep telling him that if he keeps pushing her during his training runs, his marathon will be super easy. Of course, its all relative! Matt called us both crazy and decided he and Tara were going to enjoy sleep instead. Once we were done we took our starving selves to Coffee and Crepes where we all enjoyed a great breakfast/lunch. Lily snuggled with Tara the whole time. So cute.



Tara and I had a blast the rest of the afternoon doing what we do best...SHOP! We started with a movie and then headed to find the sales. We ended up having a great time and finding fantastic date night dresses at cheap prices. It is funny what happens when you have a baby and enter mommy mode. Getting dressed up takes on a whole new meaning, ie. what is going to be the easiest to nurse in and the best to cover the left over pregnant chub. Tara dared me to buy this little cocktail dress and I took her up on it. I am so glad she did because we both took a break from mommy comfort and got our groove back for a night with our men. We all headed out to Bonefish Grill and had a wonderful time.


I enjoyed a couple of raspberry martinis (delicious!) and Tara had this awesome martini that was served with a glow stick in it (no joke!).


I think the best part of the night is that we ended up not having childcare (yeah that is a whole new dimension to our life), so our little girl got stuck underneath the table. No one knew she was there either. She fussed a bit but slept soundly the whole time.


Bob and I realized that we won't be able to conceal her under our table for much longer. Tara and I had a blast getting all dressed up for our hubbies and loved the time together as couples.

Here is the proof that mommies can be comfortable and sexy!